Falling in love is a beautiful thing. When we meet that special person, we want to get to know them. We ask lots of questions and listen with curiosity, falling deeper in love. If it feels right, we make the decision to share the rest of our lives together.

The desire to go from being single to married again is a big step. Making this decision the second or even third time around involves many people now. It has been said that when you marry someone with children, you marry the whole family, including the former spouse. So it behooves us to learn as much as possible about this person we want to marry.
Use these questions as a guide to know your beloved. There are no wrong answers, only insights into who your partner is and what they want and need. These are questions that require a lot of thought. Don’t allow one question to keep you from finishing the list. Let these questions be a guide for you to get to know each other at a deeper level.

The best marriages are built on a strong foundation. When you have the tools to build the relationship of your dreams, you can have one that will last a lifetime!

1. What are your expectations involving sex? How frequently would you
like it?

2. Should we have a prenuptial agreement?

3. What religion will we practice, if any? Will we attend church...as a couple, a family or alone?

4. What method will we use to resolve arguments?

5. What are your feelings about monogamy?

6. What are your feelings about cheating? Have you cheated?

7. How will we spend our vacation time, visiting family or relaxing on a
beach? Together or apart or both?

8. What kind of relationship do you have with your children?

9. What kind of relationship do your children have with their other parent?

10. What is the best way to support you when you are stressed or upset?

11. Who will handle paying the bills every month?

12. How will we combine incomes and divide expenses?

13. Where do you see us in two years, five years, 10 years, 20 years?

14. Do you want or plan to change careers?

15. Do you want to volunteer time together? Doing what?

16. How will we most effectively and kindly communicate our needs?

17. Who will do the housecleaning? Grocery shopping? Cooking?

18. What are your spending habits? Should we put money in savings?
How much and how often?

19. What is your family’s history of physical and mental illness?

20. What is on your list of goals?

21. Have you ever been arrested? If so, for what and when?

22. What is your relationship like with your former spouse(s)?

23. How will we spend holidays? Where? With whom?

24. Are there any words, phrases or names you would like me to refrain from
saying to you?

25. What will we do to ensure the continued success of our marriage?

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